Most of the people family doctors see have physical complaints that may in part be their “last straw”. Sometimes its a heart attack or a stroke, with the underlying problem being a feeling of being out of control because imbibing food/drink/not execising or focusing enough on keeping their body healthy, is just something that is an overwhelming added burden. The underlying burden is probably sub/unconscious, maybe most likely, For exmple, a messy divorce, the death of loved parent(s), being over 40 with no children and hating your job are concious stressors that may also touch your soul and stir up questions like why am I here anyway or why is it good to be alive? The realization that “nothing I ever try to do makes me feel any better”. I feel depressed, since life is a long road full of pot holes, one endures. Besides being depressed just thinking about the above, I want to remind the reader that we need to pay attention to how our body feels, since physical sensations are the earliest memories our infant minds record in the depth of the right side of our brain and the process of receiving and recordidng body sensations may begin before birth. We know that fetuses in utero can pull away from painful stimuli and no doubt share the same blood supply as mom and can then experience hormonal stress states, just like mom. So a 50 or 60 year old person who is experiencing physical pains may also be having a re-vivification (bringing back to life) of earlier infantile or toddler memories of stress that our body-mind remembers and that I see in my medical psychotherapy practice added by hypnosis and hypnoanalysis. This final common pathway is a regression which means that subconsciously, the patient, like it or not is going back to earlier times of living and recalling. This is not a conscious process, as the patient is and feels sick. Sometimes, medication may help, but what is more important is for my patient to come to know that there is an unconscious reason for feeling sick and essentially being sick, really sick. If my patient can come to know the source of their misery, then they will have and anchor or footing upon which to regain their hope, get unstuck so their they may redefine their life and who they are. You are not just your thoughts. You also have the human capacity to observe yourself thinking, feeling, sharing, attaching, working with another person to be your temporary guide. You know that you cannot do all this alone, but with the right medical therapist who can come to understand you and feed this understanding back to you, help you grow again. This is the truth and it is not magic, it just requires you ability to listen to, focus and for awhile suspend your preconceived motives about yourself. The final common pathway need only be a temporary stuck place, not a slow death.ir
Years ago I was taught that depression was related to a chemical imbalance and that with the proper medication, you could rid yourself of the pain. Over the years my opinions have changed about many things, this one in particular. Now I tend to look at what is the reason(s) for feeling sad/depressed/upset/anxious. I understand very well that how we feel may be caused by any number of external factors like changes in hormones, infections, toxins ingested or in the environment. But over time, I have become more curious about looking for subconscious/unconscious reasons for feeling bad. There are reasons, I feel that once we can understand by having a partner in the process of medical psychotherapy, that those bad feelings dissipate and in their place you can re-experience joy by really knowing the reasons for your misery. Medical hypnosis/hypnoanalysis gets to the core of these so called reasons fast, usually within 12 office hours, so that you can get a grip. Hypnosis is used to get you very relaxed so that you are able to complete a detailed history and word association exercise to facilitate this process. It is not painful, in fact, most of us enjoy the process and really learn to relax themselves. As a psychiatrist, physician, counselor, psychologist I feel comfortable working with children, adolescents and their families. It is what I enjoy doing and it feels like a priveledge to become a working member included in the family process.
When people seek help for their child who is having difficulties, the parents are usually operating in “emergency mode” and feeling at least as bad as their child with high anxiety, depression, confusion and uncertainty about what to do next. They are looking for the best clinician, located nearby who has almost immediate availability to see and fix the situation. The first consultation gives the parents a chance to assess the clinician to see if the clinician can emotionally connect, is able to tune into the current crisis and misery the parents are experiencing and begin to offer hope that things can get better. It takes a lot to begin trusting a new stranger who wants to become a new functional part of the family in the evolution of the therapeutic process. It’s a big responsibility that weighs heavy on everyone’s shoulders. Parents are looking for some kind of wisdom that can reduce their sense of helplessness. It is a highly charged emotional situation and it is not about theory out of some book. It’s about the emotional interaction between all concerned which will also soon include the child/adolescent. As a Blue Cross PPO Provider, you want a responsive therapist who can jump into the family system and help with your child in distress. I am not a medication-pushing psychiatrist; I can help you with a referral for medication evaluation and management, if that is your wish. I will accept children on medication if there is a wish to reduce dosages, as the child gets stronger through our work together. My focus is getting at the root of the presenting problem(s). At the core of being helpful, I find that the relationship we work toward establishing is essential toward getting the job done. So it is important to meet and see if/how we can connect. I usually begin by getting a history from the parents about your child/adolescent’s problem(s). I will be back in my office around April 24th. In the interim, my colleague, Pamela Rebeck, PhD. is covering my practice and also accepting new patients, in my absence. 630-357-9339. She is also located in Naperville at the same address and is a Blue Cross PPO provider and has her own web site.
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Youngsters present with depression when their dreams don’t come true, alienation, depression, self isolation, decreased ability to function leave parents puzzled and helpless
Why do we worry? The De-fault position of our mind may be worry, anxiety and concern which does have survival value. I like listening to pod casts when I work out. Recently, I listened to a podcast, Sounds True, Voices From The Edge. The researcher Kelley McGonigal, PhD was talking about her findings regarding religious and spiritual practices. Most of these practices lead toward grateful, humanistic feelings in which the individual experienced more attunement to self and an awareness of also being connected to the rest of humanity. This is the sort of feeling that ancient religious persons experienced and wrote about as well as many of us who practice prayer and mindfulness training. When we look at Christian writers and the words of Jesus in Aramaic, this message shines through. It is even more prominent when we look at his words as re-interpreted in the language of the time. This ancient language is not Hebrew or Arabic. Jesus thought and spoke in Aramaic, the language of the common people. I bring this up to stress a point, which is that when most of us awaken each day; our experience is not characterized as spiritual gratefulness. Rather it is full of ruminating thoughts reminding us to finish up what we need to pay attention to. How do I prepare myself for today, or have worry, concern, and negative feelings about any sort of baggage that does not have an easy answer? Dr. McGonigal notes that our minds function by more primitive rules geared toward individual survival. We are trying to find ways of protecting ourselves. Feeling loved, secure and safe is a prominent theme. Perhaps this position of self-safety lies at the bottom of our returning army vets with PTSD. There is a lot of anxiety, rage, depression because the so-called normal rules of society don’t address the breech in the feeling states of the soldier who is a trained killing machine. The soldier comes home and is supposed to use other pathways of mind that are in oppositions to those dealing with survival. Coming home should mean being thankful for family, being alive and having relaxed optimism for each new day. The subconscious mind says that you don’t feel safe, because it is operating in survival mode. Consciously you want to accept your family’s love, but another part of your mind says, no deal. The ancient primitive survival part says be on alert, beware, be on guard. This is subconscious and much more powerful than conscious reasoning. A good soldier never lets his guard down, it’s embedded into his very being. It’s Groundhog’s Day in survival again and again and again and it doesn’t match the conscious return home-expected reality. Same old shit, just another day. That’s how stuck people live each day. It is depressing, exhausting, and could turn anyone toward an addiction just to get a change in how they feel. To get support we need to get the family involved with everyone one the same page. This is a miserable state but it is treatable. We need to get to the root cause of this misery and we use hypnosis and hypnanalysis to facilitate medical psychotherapy. Why not use medication? I choose to not use it anymore because it does not get down to the root cause of the problem. If booze helped, why not keep drinking? After all, alcohol is a great anti anxiety drug. Antidepressants do not make the permanent changes we look for, although in emergencies, they can be life saving. What we need to see is that this survival mode is exactly an attempt to try and stay alive. It is just outmoded. If you have a question, call. 630-527-1631. Thanks for taking the time to read.
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GO WITH YOUR GIFTS
What you have suffered through and mastered, become your well-earned gift, lasting a lifetime.
IM Kraus, DO
We are much too focused on the past or the future. We need to be in the present, that is where we live and need to make decisions. The rub is that our unconscious, childhood baggage keeps pulling us back toward our worries, concerns and imagined shortcomings. Psychologist, Terra Brach PhD calls this “defaut position of our mind”, The TRANCE OF UNWORTHINESS, (Book: Radical Acceptance) and a form of the childhood delusional thinking brought forward into our adult developing sense of self. I see this as a remnant of our anchant human survival brain schemata. When we awaken in the AM our mind takes us to “unfinished concerns” instead of being greatful for this brand new day, full of promise and excitement for what the day will bring. By worrying about unfinished stuff, we limit ourselves to enjoy the dawning of this new day, the pleasures from human interaction and joy of just being alive. We feel like a 100 watt bulb operating on only 40 watts in this default mode, just existing. Some would call this a chronic low grade depressiom which does not usuallyu respond to medication.Others feel a lot of self hatred. We survive in a very sorryfull state. Hypnoanalysis is about going back to the source of the “problem” and bringing to life the long forgotten baggage using brief yet powerful interventions to help us recall and bring to life stuff that we unconsciously forgot. We help you by being on this journeuy together. We want you to find ways to becme that healthier person you are entitled to become through hard work .Learn to live your life to your fullest for your own self. This is not magic and yes it is quite do able. As you change, you may have uncomfort as you come to grips with things that initially left you feeling defective, unlovable, or not worthy of a fuller life. But, if you choose a new route and want to grow, no matter what your age, it is possible to find a way to Change Your Life Now. As an experienced Medically Trained Board Certified Psychiatrist, this is a safe, and non toxic facilitated by a secure therapeutic attachment. It is individually tailored and “dosed” and unlike medication does not have a multitude of toxic side effects. People enjoy leaning how to relax and focus inside themselves. No promises, but patients usually say that after 10 hours or so of office therapy that they begin to feel better. By looking inside yourself in therapy you become aware that your mind can begin to observe that you are much, more than your fleeting or ruiminating thoughts. You can actually learn to change your thinking and feelings about yourself. If you have tried other therapies and found them superficial or not touching you where you live, you may wish a medical consultation for a second opinion. Thanks for your time. Dr. Kraus 630-527-1631